This one's for the babies. And against sleep trainers.

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I get it. I get why people want to do sleep training. Why they look into it. Why they buy Ferber's book or another one of the million sleep trainers out there. I understand how depressing and desperate it is, to do the most important job in the world, mind your little baby, when you haven't had a good night sleep in months! This is considered a method of torture in many places! I was there myself for a while with my first born. So I'm really not judging.

I personally couldn't bring myself to do it. I couldn't listen to him cry, not even for one minute. I was astounded at the strong, physical reaction I had. Every part of my body felt like it was on fire! I came to the conclusion, that sleep training wasn't for me or my family.

I was doing some research during this desperate sleep-deprived time :) and stumbled across this article. It struck a chord with me.  I liked the scientific approach to the subject. It's a huge societal topic! I believe sleep training babies is a relatively new chapter in the history of man kind. It has a lot to do with needing to sleep, as we have to get up and go to work the next day in order to survive (hello industrialization!). But even more so - it has a lot to do with having to deal with your children mostly on your own - without the helping hands of mums, grandmothers, cousins, aunts, friends, those you might need to catch a little break in between or go for a quick nap… The reason isn't that people don't want to help, they're just busy working from (at least) 9-5.

I personally don't think we are meant to sit in a house/ apartment on our own as mothers with our baby/ children. It takes a village to raise a child. But what do we do if there's no village??

I'm glad that I was too "weak" and "soft" (I've been called both) to follow through. And BTW, my son is now an excellent sleeper.